Many things had WENT WRONG in our Parenting styles today. We have to know that Parenting is EASY if you start working on yourself to see the results in your children, rather than working on them while you lack the quality. The result will be quicker and pleasing. DO YOU GET IT AT ALL?
“One day, I was a guest at one of my friend’s place. This was a very rich man and he had a young son. While we were sitting, his son offered me a glass of water. The father retaliated: “Can’t you even greet with Salaam!” I could clearly see the man’s eyebrows frowning and the little kid shivering. The child mumbled ‘As Salaamu Alaykum’ in a shivering voice. Later, I corrected my friend that HE WAS WRONG I INSULTING his son and he should READ the biography of the Prophet (May the peace and blessing of ALLAAH be upon him) on how he taught children, tolerated their mistakes and corrected them without getting ANGRY (especially Anas bn Malik).”
My dear Abu and Umm, like any skill, you need to put in the effort to develop the ART OF PARENTING with immense passion, tolerance and cheerfulness. If you want to establish good qualities like GENEROSITY, HOSPITALITY and HELPFUL NATURE in your child, you have to master them yourself and then demonstrate the same in front of your child in order to teach them.
The important concern is not whether you are performing parenting or not, but it is whether you are carrying it out properly. Parenting cannot be DELEGATED!!!
BHMC will be waiting for you in one of their PARENTING classes.