Danger of Third Party in Marriage

*Effects of the Third-party on Marriage*

_Most problems are been caused by our actions but we are always fooled by blaming our spouses, however, one of the greatest fire-eating Marriages these days is the *”Third-party”*. No one had ever thought that your so being called Family, Friends…..can be your Third-party. Until they became the CEO of Spyers on your Marriage…….._

_Imagine!!!, Marriages have been ruled and ruined by Outsiders, So you can’t even plan your life yourself? Mo gbe!_

*Ọ ga ooo.*

_Imagine!, Sending your friend to spy on your husband. For what reason? you want to know if he gets attracted to other ladies or his other plans outside, or his female colleagues at the Workplace. Have you forgotten Spying is a criminal offense in Islam, Allah, and his Prophet warned us against, and my Lord says; Surah Al-Hujraat, Verse 12:_

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَبَ بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ

*_”O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion, for sure suspicion in some cases, it’s a sin, and do not spy nor let some of you backbite others. Does one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? But you abhor it and be careful of (your duty to) Allah, surely Allah is Often-returning (to mercy), Merciful”_*

_In this verse, Allah compared all these Sins (Spying, Backbiting….) to eating your fellow Muslim’s flesh. If you can’t find it easy to eat the Corpse of your Muslim, why do you find it so easy to spy on your fellow human being?_

_If you turn deaf ear to what Allah and His Prophet said, I know you won’t forgive yourself if your friend snatches your Spouse from you, Shìo,! Lobaton !!_

_Agony; is one of the greatest effects of a third party. In your marriage, take, for instance, a friend may just come to you and tell you that she saw your spouse in a hotel and you started thinking of bad things, you can’t even at least confirm from your Spouse because since you never had any clear cut evidence to prosecute him for you never saw him with your own eyes, and besides you fear for your Marriage. Due to this, you started thinking all Days and Nights:_

_”You won develop Hypertension!?”_ *Pa re e o!!_

_Later future, you find out that all the unconfirmed events were fabricated Lies and My Lord says;_

*Surah Al-Hujraat, Verse 6:*

“يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِن جَاءَكُمْ فَاسِقٌ بِنَبَإٍ فَتَبَيَّنُوا أَن تُصِيبُوا قَوْمًا بِجَهَالَةٍ فَتُصْبِحُوا عَلَىٰ مَا فَعَلْتُمْ نَادِمِينَ.”

*_”O you who believe! if an evil-doer comes to you with a report, look carefully into it, lest you harm people in ignorance, then be sorry for what you have done”_*

_Don’t let us be Quick in judgment and we shouldn’t Let all matter get into our brain & emotions._

_BHMC said and I quote” *YES or NO!!!*_

_”99% of our frustrations with our partners come from *experiences from our past, the mere thought, my mum and friend said and I read on social media*. That means only 10 percent of the frustrations you currently have are about each other.”_

*BHMC Matrimonial Builder Course 6️⃣*

*May Our home be peaceful, Amin.*